Grandparents Matter
Dr. Stephen Phinney: Now that our Millennial children are becoming grandparents, we are about to face a growing change in culture.
I am a blessed grandpa—an Opa to eleven grandchildren and two great‑grandchildren—and I cherish every moment of it. There’s something sacred about hearing that name spoken with affection; it carries legacy, laughter, and love all in one word. Being called Opa reminds me that family is the living testimony of Yeshua’s faithfulness through generations, and each hug, smile, and story shared with them is a glimpse of His indwelling Life flowing through our lineage.
HOUSTON, WE HAVE A PROBLEM!
Our culture is quietly entering a new genealogical turning point—one that few have yet recognized. The Millennial generation, shaped by digital immediacy and social fragmentation, is now stepping into the role of grandparents. This shift carries profound implications: a generation raised amid the collapse of traditional institutions and the rise of virtual connection is now responsible for transmitting heritage, wisdom, and stability to the next generation. Yet many Millennials were themselves raised in homes where the rhythms of family life were disrupted by economic strain, cultural redefinition, and the erosion of Christ-centered identity.
As they become grandparents, the question is not merely biological—it’s spiritual and cultural. Will they pass down the enduring truths that anchor families, or will they perpetuate the transient values of a screen-driven age?
The answer will determine whether this genealogical transition becomes a renewal of legacy or a deepening of generational drift.
Millennial children, many of whom grew up detached from their parents and shaped more by digital mommies and daddies than by steady, in‑person guidance, are now stepping into the role of grandparents—a role that demands sturdiness, presence, and legacy. This generation learned to navigate life through screens, algorithms, and online communities, often filling emotional and relational gaps with digital substitutes. Their formative years were shaped by fractured institutions, distracted parenting, and a culture that elevated autonomy over inheritance—producing a generation now facing the highest rates of suicide, divorce, and family‑level instability and abuse. What should have been a season of guided formation became an era of self‑navigation, leaving Millennials to carry burdens they were never prepared to bear alone.
Now they’re grandparents!
Now, as they become grandparents, they face a profound reversal: the very generation that largely raised itself must now become the anchors for the generations that follow - Gen Z and Alpha.
Grandparenting requires rootedness, wisdom, and embodied stability—qualities not easily cultivated in a digital upbringing. Yet this moment also presents an opportunity. If Millennials choose to step out of the virtual patterns that shaped them and embrace the sacred calling of generational stewardship, they can become the unexpected restorers of family continuity.
Their challenge is clear: to trade digital detachment for relational presence, and to become the sturdy, faithful grandparents their lineage desperately needs.
You would think the answer is to call on Generation X—the very parents who birthed and shaped the Millennials—but it is not. Their generation, stretched thin by cultural upheaval, institutional breakdown, and the early digital revolution, is already exhausted from trying to hold together what was unraveling around them. The solution must reach deeper than simply turning back to the previous tier; the crisis requires a generational anchor stronger than the one that raised Millennials.
THE ANSWER LIES IN GRANDPA & GRANDMA
The Baby Boomer generation stands as the last broadly recognized cohort to embody and consistently demonstrate traditional Biblical values of parenting. They were shaped in an era when family identity was anchored in Scripture, church life was central to community rhythms, and parenting was understood as a sacred stewardship rather than a negotiable preference. Boomers inherited a worldview where covenant marriage, respect for authority, and multigenerational responsibility were not merely ideals but daily practices.
Because of this, they became the final generation to widely model a parenting culture rooted in discipline, devotion, and discipleship—values that have steadily eroded in the decades since. Overall, their approach to raising children was grounded in presence rather than digital distraction, in responsibility rather than self‑expression, and in faith rather than fluidity. As culture shifted, later generations drifted from these anchors, making Baby Boomers the last large-scale generation to carry a cohesive, biblically shaped vision of what it means to form and guide a family.
Parents of the Millennial generation must tap into their Boomer grandparents. Yes, some of them may be tucked away in retirement homes—or simply sidelined by a culture that no longer knows how to honor its elders—but they remain the answer Generation Z and the Alpha kids desperately need.
The Baby Boomers are the last broadly formed generation that lived, modeled, and defended traditional biblical values of family, faith, and responsibility. Calling them back into active grandparenting is not nostalgia; it is strategic rescue. Their presence, wisdom, and lived stability can supply what younger generations were never given and cannot manufacture on their own.
Baby Boomer grandparents still carry something our culture has nearly forgotten: the ability to honor, respect, and adhere to Biblical authority as a natural rhythm of life.
They were formed in a generation where Scripture shaped conscience, where family order flowed from God’s design, and where love was expressed through presence, consistency, and sacrifice. This generation knows how to love unconditionally—not as a slogan, but as a practiced way of living. They understand structure in daily life, the kind that gives children security and teaches them how to navigate the world with confidence and reverence.
And perhaps most beautifully, Boomers know how to hug without it feeling strange—for them or for their grandchildren. Affection is not awkward; it is expected. Their embrace carries warmth, stability, and legacy. In a culture where physical connection has been replaced by digital interaction, their simple, heartfelt hug becomes a powerful reminder of what real family feels like.
And the best part is this: Baby Boomer grandparents still know how to offer grounded, biblical counsel in a way that draws a grandchild in rather than pushes them away.
Their wisdom doesn’t come wrapped in lectures or digital noise—it comes through lived experience, gentle guidance, and a tone that feels safe rather than corrective. They instinctively know how to speak truth with tenderness, weave Scripture into everyday life without sounding preachy, and give counsel that feels like an embrace rather than an argument. Their advice carries weight because it is anchored in decades of faithfulness, and it resonates because it is delivered with the kind of love that makes a grandchild lean in instead of walk out.
This will take a miracle from God!
Since so many Millennials carry a deep sense of disdain and detachment toward their parents and grandparents, calling them back into a multigenerational restoration will require nothing short of a miracle from the Living God.
The relational fractures run deep, and the cultural conditioning that shaped them has taught them to look everywhere except to their elders for wisdom. Yet for those who have awakened to the reality described in this essay—those who see the statistics, feel the instability, and recognize the generational drift—a remnant will be willing to step forward. These few will choose humility over pride, legacy over isolation, and restoration over resentment. And through them, God can begin a work that rethreads the broken lines of inheritance before they disappear entirely.
If we are going to rescue Generations Z and Alpha from the cultural free‑fall they’re experiencing, we must challenge them—boldly and lovingly—to return to the arms of their Baby Boomer grandparents. These elders are the last living carriers of stable, biblical, family‑anchored identity, and reconnecting the youngest generations to them is not optional; it is urgent. If you make this move—even minimally, even imperfectly—for the sake of your family heritage, the impact will ripple forward for decades.
Don’t settle for merely evangelizing Gen Z and Alpha. Bond them to family traditions, shared stories, and the unity that only comes from multigenerational connection.
When you place them back in the embrace of grandparents who know how to love, guide, and anchor, you plant seeds of legacy that will outlive you and reshape the generations to come.
To all the Millennial parents who fought against the tide of culture, who raised godly children in the Lord, and who kept your sons and daughters connected to their grandparents—I say thank you. Thank you for choosing the narrow path when the wide one was easier. Thank you for resisting the cultural drift that tried to pull your family away from its biblical roots. And thank you for raising your children against the tide, preserving a heritage that will bless generations long after we are gone.
Reprinted with permission from IOM America. No portion may be edited, abridged, or redistributed in part without prior written consent.